Getting Pregnant Mom To-Be

Things I Wish I Knew: It’s Not Always Easy To Get Pregnant

July 11, 2016
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We were beyond excited to announce that we’re expecting another little bundle of joy. We were also extremely grateful, because it wasn’t as easy as a bottle of wine and date night for us. More like shots, pills and praying. I wrote the post below months ago, in the depth of struggling to get pregnant. I read it often to remind myself how badly I wanted to feel like the morning after a college rager-everyday. How badly I wanted to not fit my pants. How badly I felt when others didn’t realize the quiet struggles some of us have to get our little loves. My struggle was nothing compared to thousands of women who undergo years of procedures and pain trying for their sweet babes. But this isn’t a competition and it doesn’t make it any easier.

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Every time one of my (well meaning) girlfriends bitches about being pregnant, I want to punch them in the face and say “Do you know how fucking lucky you are?!”. But I don’t, I just smile weakly and cry about it later. I’m not a crier, but there is something about not being able to get pregnant that destroys me. Jagger is a year now and we’re been trying to get pregnant for months.  Many rounds of clomid (and a deep sense of failure) later, I write this. 

I think it’s so hard because it’s entirely out of my control. I’m type A, to put it lightly, so things that are out of my control (like flying and my husband’s outfit choices) make me really uncomfortable. I’m healthy, fit and young; I should be the perfect candidate to get knocked up, but I’m not and no amount of praying, crying or clomid will change that. This isn’t up to me.

So next time you beautiful expectant mommas are wishing your ankles weren’t swollen or that you could binge on sushi and sake, remember, there is most likely a woman very close to you struggling quietly for those problems. (Don’t get me wrong, you totally get to bitch about nasty prego symptoms, just know your audience.)

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4 Comments

  • Reply marion viale July 11, 2016 at 7:56 pm

    I wish i knew…
    1st…sorry for my English… I’m French…
    I love the way you talk about being a mum (or dad btw), how hard, funny, great, wonderful, stressful, it could be.
    You say at loud what all mum think and what all girl, woman, sister, friend should know or see!
    Thank you for that, you’re incredible!

  • Reply Alvina Wong July 12, 2016 at 5:10 pm

    This post speaks so truthful to exactly how I have been feeling! Two and a half years and 4 consecutive miscarriages later, I am left feel hopeless and shattered. I have come to accept the fact that we may just in fact, be a family of 3 and makes me all the more grateful and blessed for our son that we created! I am slowly learning to let go and move forward of things that are beyond my control. Thank you for this!

  • Reply Charlotte DUTRUC October 1, 2016 at 3:49 pm

    Hi Yael

    Can I say that this article is beyond word. Thank you so much to share that with us, to be vulnerable.

    Thank you

    Charlotte

  • Reply Kimberly Hall December 5, 2016 at 6:04 am

    I have been trying to get pregnant for 6 years of been married. My husband and I have been seeing fertility specialist. We have done our best but no luck. My husband has a sperm count which goes up and down, the doctor has recommended him taking the Proceed supplement which he is doing over 3 years with no change in the situation .. I am was so confused until i contacted this powerful spiritual woman advised by my friend, so I contacted her and I told her all about my problem, so she agreed to help me, she prayed for me and she sent me some native herbal medicine, which i use, she told me to meet with my husband.. within a 2 weeks i used the medicine she sent me i was uneasy with my self, i started having morning sickness and hormonal changes. I immediately went to the my doctor and it was confirm that I was pregnant.. all thanks to Iya Basira for helping me and my family, i am now a proud mum of a baby boy… Do you need help of such kind then contact Iya Basira, she can definitely help you. this her email address nativeiyabasira@yahoo.com

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