Lara Merkel
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Lara Merkel

Lara Merkel Ross, work in progress. I was a perpetual student- went to grad school and then law school after college to stave off the real world. I enjoyed a brief moment working in film production and then found a home in the finance world in NYC. I currently work full time with and for my delicious sons, 12 year old Sebastian and 11 year old Fritz. I’m wildly grateful to Motherlucker and my village of kind, authentic, kickass people without whom being a mom would be impossible. As my mom told me ‘there is no one way to be a perfect mom. There are infinite ways to be a great mom.’ I’m working on it…

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    Advice Parenting

    White Shirt, Red Pants

    Moms today have so much information at their fingertips- books outlining what to expect at every milestone, advice from family, friends and of course, the almighty Google. Yet there comes a time when ALL…

    October 27, 2016
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    Parenting

    Good Labels

    I like a good label… No, not Valentino. Not Prada. Not Casa Amigos. Did someone say Tequila? The labels I’m talking about are the ones I use to describe Sebastian’s special needs. OCD. ADHD.…

    November 18, 2016
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    Advice Parenting

    What About Me?

    “You’re only as happy as your unhappiest child”… this is an expression every mother has heard and likely uttered. I have said it more times than I care to count. Little did I know…

    December 15, 2016
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    Parenting

    For the Love of the Coach

    I love hockey. I grew up in a small town in Long Island and belonged to a winter sports club. Everyday after school my best friends and I would figure skate, drink hot chocolate…

    January 30, 2017
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    Mom Stuff

    “You aren’t you…”

    Sebastian, my first, was born on April 3, 2004. As a new mother, I was struggling with everything, breastfeeding most of all. On my six week checkup I got the post c-section all clear…

    February 9, 2017
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    Relationships

    The “C” Word

    I recently travelled to Morocco for the wedding of a cherished friend. I’d never been before and everything seemed magical and other-worldly; the architecture, the gardens and especially the call to prayer which gave…

    March 9, 2017
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    Daddy’s Little Girl

    Two months ago to this day I received a text from my father: I love you more each day. XXX Daddy. I responded: Thank you Daddy! Feel exactly the same way! How lucky I…

    April 6, 2017
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    Mom Stuff

    I Get By With A Little Help

    In the months I’ve been contributing to Motherlucker one thing has become painfully clear. I’m the geriatric mom in this crew. Ok. I’m 47. Not quite ready for AARP, but decidedly not young and…

    May 22, 2017
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    It’s Not Your Fault

    Many young girls dream of their wedding. Of their partner. Of the dress. I had one dream. To be a mom. I never pictured my wedding or prince charming. I imagined my kids. I…

    July 20, 2017
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    Mom Stuff

    Being Ok With The Now

    I was picking Sebastian up from school and ran into a beloved history teacher. He has taught for nearly 50 years and reminds me of Robin William’s character in Dead Poets society. He is…

    November 6, 2017