Lara Merkel
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Lara Merkel

Lara Merkel Ross, work in progress. I was a perpetual student- went to grad school and then law school after college to stave off the real world. I enjoyed a brief moment working in film production and then found a home in the finance world in NYC. I currently work full time with and for my delicious sons, 12 year old Sebastian and 11 year old Fritz. I’m wildly grateful to Motherlucker and my village of kind, authentic, kickass people without whom being a mom would be impossible. As my mom told me ‘there is no one way to be a perfect mom. There are infinite ways to be a great mom.’ I’m working on it…

Mom Advice Parenting

White Shirt, Red Pants

Moms today have so much information at their fingertips- books outlining what to expect at every milestone, advice from family, friends and of course, the almighty Google. Yet there comes a time when ALL that information pales in comparison to a gut feeling, a…

October 27, 2016

Good Labels

I like a good label… No, not Valentino. Not Prada. Not Casa Amigos. Did someone say Tequila? The labels I’m talking about are the ones I use to describe Sebastian’s special needs. OCD. ADHD. Anxiety. Throughout my journey with my son, up to and…

November 18, 2016
Mom Advice Parenting

What About Me?

“You’re only as happy as your unhappiest child”… this is an expression every mother has heard and likely uttered. I have said it more times than I care to count. Little did I know that I wasn’t always right about which of my beautiful…

December 15, 2016
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For the Love of the Coach

I love hockey. I grew up in a small town in Long Island and belonged to a winter sports club. Everyday after school my best friends and I would figure skate, drink hot chocolate and swoon over hockey players. The Kesnick brothers? Dreamy. I…

January 30, 2017
Mom Stuff Motherlucker

“You aren’t you…”

Sebastian, my first, was born on April 3, 2004. As a new mother, I was struggling with everything, breastfeeding most of all. On my six week checkup I got the post c-section all clear from my doctor. Yay! I could have sex again! Yeah.…

February 9, 2017
Mom Stuff Motherlucker

The “C” Word

I recently travelled to Morocco for the wedding of a cherished friend. I’d never been before and everything seemed magical and other-worldly; the architecture, the gardens and especially the call to prayer which gave me chills every time it echoed across Marrakesh. The bride,…

March 9, 2017

Daddy’s Little Girl

Two months ago to this day I received a text from my father: I love you more each day. XXX Daddy. I responded: Thank you Daddy! Feel exactly the same way! How lucky I am to have such an elegant, kind, truly GOOD man…

April 6, 2017
Mom Stuff Motherlucker

I Get By With A Little Help

In the months I’ve been contributing to Motherlucker one thing has become painfully clear. I’m the geriatric mom in this crew. Ok. I’m 47. Not quite ready for AARP, but decidedly not young and hot and toting a baby on my hip. Which is…

May 22, 2017

It’s Not Your Fault

Many young girls dream of their wedding. Of their partner. Of the dress. I had one dream. To be a mom. I never pictured my wedding or prince charming. I imagined my kids. I named them. Often silly soap opera sounding names. I assumed,…

July 20, 2017
Mom Stuff Motherlucker

Being Ok With The Now

I was picking Sebastian up from school and ran into a beloved history teacher. He has taught for nearly 50 years and reminds me of Robin William’s character in Dead Poets society. He is wise and weathered and very much to the point. I…

November 6, 2017