Parenting

Things I Wish People Wouldn’t Do: Apologize to Other Parents

April 12, 2016
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Dude, you’re doing your best. If anyone gets that it’s the other parents around you. If your kid licks, bites or spits up on me- that’s totally cool, cause chances are my kiddo is going to return the favor. This is about something much bigger though, it’s about the pressure we all put on ourselves to have perfect children. Let me burst that bubble for you, our kids— no matter how polite, smart and wonderful— are going to destroy shit and sneeze on people. And I happen to think that’s ok (and sometimes funny). I ache for new moms who apologize for their child’s every move, I ache for the self-pressure they must feel. I feel enough pressure and judgement as a new parent, so I’m saving the self-doubt and apologies for when they’re really needed (I’m talking malicious behavior,  crashing your car or stealing your wife).

So please don’t say sorry for kids being kids, let’s not teach them that curiosity, exploration, and pushing boundaries is something to apologize for, or what a boring generation we will raise.

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4 Comments

  • Reply Marilyn Whitfield April 13, 2016 at 12:57 am

    Being a parent is an adventure, raising your children is the journey, enjoy the ride it will pass in a heartbeat.

  • Reply Ben Mulroney April 13, 2016 at 8:40 pm

    Amen! We’ve got three little ones and the best piece of parenting advice I ever got was: "Be wary of advice that starts with "Never" or "Always"." In other words, there is no right way to parent, there is only YOUR way. So do you, do your kids, enjoy the chaos and tune out the judgement.

  • Reply Charlotte DUTRUC-LAPUTRAZ April 21, 2016 at 7:33 pm

    Hi Yael

    I love this article.
    Being a anti, I am like going everywhere with my nephew and I can really feel the pressure sometimes (can’t imagine how deep parents can feel it).

    And I think its all the pressure about having the perfect life, be a perfect other, have the perfect children.

    But after all, what perfection means anyway?

    Thank you for your article, it is amazing!

    Much Love+

    Charlotte

  • Reply Gelena Wasserman April 25, 2016 at 9:44 pm

    Could not agree more…I might also add to the list that at 5 months old my kid decided to just shit all over the communal blanket at her mommy and me class as we were walking in. Definitely one of those sorry not sorry moments but still embarrassing nonetheless. Shit happens. We all deal.

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