My husband and I will be married 10 years this October. TEN years!!! When I got married at the ripe age of 23, I thought marriage would definitely be “tough”, but mostly believed it would be full of sunshine, roses and glitter. I must have watched way too many Rom-Coms! Add in 10 years of annoying quirks, family highs and lows, two kids, a mortgage, careers – yeah, I want to slap my 23 year-old self as much as you do! Although I must admit, there has been plentiful sunshine over the years – mixed with thunderstorms and torrential downpours. The outcome? Rainbows! Rainbows that have shown us that hope and light exists through some of your darkest times…if you choose to believe and never give up!
Marriage IS tough. And anyone who tells you it isn’t either hasn’t been married that long – or they are full of shit! The truth is, marriage isn’t about luck or magic – it’s A LOT of hard work, commitment, compromise and acceptance. There are days you won’t like each other. Days you can’t STAND each other. I have learned that that’s okay. If you have a companion in your life that loves you, respects you and truly wants what is best for you – hold on tight and don’t let them go!
It hasn’t always come easy for us. We have experienced plenty of hardships together. My husband and I have stumbled along the way. Hell, we have fallen flat on our faces. But, we have picked each other up and kept on truckin. We stand united and committed to our family and our love for one another. And, I can honestly say, there is no one I’d rather be on this journey with.
If you are going through tough times – hang in there! Believe in your love. Seek help. Make extra time for one another. It’s so easy to lose sight of that magical romance you once shared, especially when your life becomes consumed with caring for little people. My best advice? Respect, forgive, compromise, encourage and never, EVER give up on each other! xo