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Second baby

Second Baby Syndrome

May 16, 2017
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I wanted it to be more about me this time around. There, I said it.

I mean, people were really into celebrating our first kid. We had showers and gifts and designated girl time so I could soak in life before motherhood. This time, I’ve kind of felt forgotten … which is crazy because I’m MASSIVE.

I didn’t know I cared until these last few weeks. I don’t need gifts, I don’t need a lot of fanfare, but I would like to be celebrated. I want to be honored for carrying another child while still contributing to society, being a wife and keeping my toddler alive. I want to be acknowledged for sacrificing my body even though I like to be perceived as low maintenance. It’s not just everyone else’s fault. I mean, I’ve barely celebrated this pregnancy myself because I’ve been too wrapped up in my own shitstorm of fear that this kid won’t be as cool as my first born and guilt for feeling that way.

When I told my best friend (mother of 3) how I was feeling, she said, “I cried when we only got like 2 cards in the mail when Aspen (her third) was born. It was like we cheated her out of something.”

YES! Cheated. That’s how it feels. Not just for me but for this tiny human. So … I decided to pull the pregnant lady diva card and asked a friend to help me coordinate a small brunch with my closest gal pals. It was settled within 15 minutes and I felt 30% embarrassed, 70% stoked.

The point? You’re allowed to want to be celebrated. Why? Because whether this is your first or fifth kid, becoming a mother is a damn miracle and pretending that it’s normal just because you’ve done it before doesn’t honor the process.

I say, get your brunch on and savor every drop of syrup and belly rub you can. I promise you won’t regret it.  

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Postpartum

Can’t Stop, Won’t Stop

Before I had my daughter, I had dreams of postpartum being a time when I finally slowed down. I’m a person who is often going a mile-a-minute, juggling several too many things at once. I told myself that once I had someone else that…

May 11, 2017
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Go Go Baby Gadgets

Hey mommas! Still wondering what to do with those lingering gift cards hanging around from the holidays? Here’s my list for mom-to-be and new mom must haves! I personally own these items and can attest to the fact that each has given me a…

April 5, 2017
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Mom Advice Mom Stuff

Dear Friends and Family

So your daughter in-law, best friend, daughter, son and/or sister just had their first baby.  Congrats to them!  Here are a few things for you to remember as the one that you love braves motherhood/fatherhood and forming her/his own family. Offer help, but don’t…

March 16, 2017
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Mom Stuff Motherlucker Parenting

When 2 + 1 = 5

One of the questions I asked my husband on our first date was “Do you want to have any more kids?” I know what you’re thinking. That’s a pretty risky thing to ask on a first date. But when you start dating a man…

March 13, 2017
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Mom Advice Parenting Pregnancy Second baby

BROTHERLY LOVE (ISH)

One of the (many) things that I was worried about when pregnant with Levi was how Jagger would respond to his new brother. Would he be jealous and aggressive? Would he be loving and helpful? Would he try to flush him down the toilet?…

January 24, 2017
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Mom Stuff Parenting Pregnancy

Labor Jitters

For a pretty fearless, self-assured lady, I sure did have some crazy jitters around the labor and delivery of my now-healthy baby boy Grayson. I’m talking about the bat-shit-crazy-thoughts that would pass through my mind as the BIG day approached. One that would make…

January 19, 2017
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Mom Advice Pregnancy Second baby

Labor Take 2

So the good news is that labor the second time around was definitely easier. Finally something about pregnancy that people didn’t lie about! (Glowing for 9 months my ass..) I had a radically different labor experience this time. I think it’s because I was…

January 3, 2017
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Mom Advice Mom Stuff Pregnancy

Birth Plan

When I was around twenty weeks pregnant with my first born, I became obsessed with finding the perfect stroller. I had narrowed it down to a select few but couldn’t pull the trigger on “the one”. So naturally, when I saw a woman walking…

December 26, 2016