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Second Baby Syndrome

May 16, 2017
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I wanted it to be more about me this time around. There, I said it.

I mean, people were really into celebrating our first kid. We had showers and gifts and designated girl time so I could soak in life before motherhood. This time, I’ve kind of felt forgotten … which is crazy because I’m MASSIVE.

I didn’t know I cared until these last few weeks. I don’t need gifts, I don’t need a lot of fanfare, but I would like to be celebrated. I want to be honored for carrying another child while still contributing to society, being a wife and keeping my toddler alive. I want to be acknowledged for sacrificing my body even though I like to be perceived as low maintenance. It’s not just everyone else’s fault. I mean, I’ve barely celebrated this pregnancy myself because I’ve been too wrapped up in my own shitstorm of fear that this kid won’t be as cool as my first born and guilt for feeling that way.

When I told my best friend (mother of 3) how I was feeling, she said, “I cried when we only got like 2 cards in the mail when Aspen (her third) was born. It was like we cheated her out of something.”

YES! Cheated. That’s how it feels. Not just for me but for this tiny human. So … I decided to pull the pregnant lady diva card and asked a friend to help me coordinate a small brunch with my closest gal pals. It was settled within 15 minutes and I felt 30% embarrassed, 70% stoked.

The point? You’re allowed to want to be celebrated. Why? Because whether this is your first or fifth kid, becoming a mother is a damn miracle and pretending that it’s normal just because you’ve done it before doesn’t honor the process.

I say, get your brunch on and savor every drop of syrup and belly rub you can. I promise you won’t regret it.  

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Grandparents Parenting

Serious Mothering

There was a time in my life when I thought my mother was suffocatingly ‘mothering’ me. Is that even a word? Well, it is now. Who am I kidding. Even on the brink of turning 40 and now a mother myself, my mom is…

May 10, 2017
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Mom Stuff Motherlucker

It’s The Small Things

OK mamas, you’ll know what I’m talking about here. You know those days when you just need five minutes to yourself? No, how about five HOURS? But you Just. Can’t. Seem. To. Get. Any There are those days where you are at your wits’…

April 10, 2017
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Mom Stuff Motherlucker Parenting

When 2 + 1 = 5

One of the questions I asked my husband on our first date was “Do you want to have any more kids?” I know what you’re thinking. That’s a pretty risky thing to ask on a first date. But when you start dating a man…

March 13, 2017
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Mom Advice Motherlucker Second baby

If I Could Turn Back Time

Let’s begin with, if you can read that title without singing it, you might be dead inside. Moving on. I like to think that I did a pretty bad ass job with Jagger. He’s a kind, sweet, smart, curious kiddo who sleeeeeeps! Hooray for…

March 7, 2017
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Mom Stuff Motherlucker

The Balance Factor

Balance is something I pride myself on. Albeit, it’s not always successful, but I always give it the old college try. I’ve been known to effectively balance work, fitness, friends, family, cooking meals, having dinner parties, girl time, personal errands and so much more.…

March 6, 2017
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Parenting

What Kind of Mother Will I Be?

This question is one I’ve always asked myself. I always knew I’d make a great mother, but what kind of mom would I be? There’s always the type of mom we wish to be, but that always changes when one becomes a mother. Would…

February 16, 2017
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Mom Advice Parenting Pregnancy Second baby

BROTHERLY LOVE (ISH)

One of the (many) things that I was worried about when pregnant with Levi was how Jagger would respond to his new brother. Would he be jealous and aggressive? Would he be loving and helpful? Would he try to flush him down the toilet?…

January 24, 2017