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Mom Advice Pregnancy

When To Start Trying

April 11, 2017

This is so personal and different for everyone, so sadly I can’t give you a magic recipe for when to start, but these are some of my litmus tests for when I knew I was ready.

  • I was ready to sacrifice. We all know having a baby changes everything (and I’m not just talking about your vajayjay). I knew I was ready when the idea of missing a beach trip or awards party didn’t seem like such a sacrifice. Little did I know it would also mean giving up daily showers and peeing alone for a while, but whatever.
  • Actively risking it. This is the “you’re not trying but you’re not NOT trying” stage. I affectionately refer to this as ‘actively risking it’. When you’re ready to roll the dice, you damn well better be ready!
  • Aunt Flo Blues. I started getting secretly sad when I got my period. Not sad because I couldn’t wear my awesome white spandex onesie or swim with the sharks, but because it was one more month to wait for my little love.

These are some of the emotional factors; of course there are financial, biological, lifestyle and logistical ones too. Only you know when you’re ready, and don’t let anyone pressure you into starting a family before you’re ready. Ultimately it’s your life that changes the most radically, so be on your own timeline, girlfriend.

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“You aren’t you…”

Sebastian, my first, was born on April 3, 2004. As a new mother, I was struggling with everything, breastfeeding most of all. On my six week checkup I got the post c-section all clear from my doctor. Yay! I could have sex again! Yeah.…

February 9, 2017
Mom Advice Pregnancy Second baby

Labor Take 2

So the good news is that labor the second time around was definitely easier. Finally something about pregnancy that people didn’t lie about! (Glowing for 9 months my ass..) I had a radically different labor experience this time. I think it’s because I was…

January 3, 2017
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Birth Plan

When I was around twenty weeks pregnant with my first born, I became obsessed with finding the perfect stroller. I had narrowed it down to a select few but couldn’t pull the trigger on “the one”. So naturally, when I saw a woman walking…

December 26, 2016
Mom Stuff Pregnancy

Pregnant And (Not So) Modest

I have been getting asked a lot this pregnancy (by friends who know me really well) “What changed?”. They ask this because for anyone who knows me, it’s downright weird to see so many revealing pictures of me on my social media. Before having…

November 29, 2016
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I Miss My Mom

There are literally no words or combinations of words I could use to properly convey how much I miss my Mum. Sometimes it doesn’t feel real and sometimes it’s so painful I struggle to catch my breath. When my Mum died I found myself…

November 10, 2016
Mom Advice Parenting Pregnancy

2nd Baby Guilt

When I first got pregnant, two of my dear friends were a few months ahead of me. As the pregnancies progressed, they began telling me that they were starting to feel guilty about these being the last months/weeks/days that their first born would be…

November 8, 2016