If you’ve ever heard some mothers talk about running their households like a business, I’m sure you’ve all slightly judged them a bit with some side eye.
I would be one of those judgy-wudgy people. In my past life. Prior to having a child, naturally.
I consider myself a business woman, having built a successful marketing career over the past 17+ years. My career is my identity. My livelihood. It is one of the only things I really know how to do well, since it consumed the majority of my hours and days, once upon a time. Knowing that I could support myself financially without the help of a man was empowering to me. Business was familiar to me. Managing people was my norm.
Then my life completely changed. I left my nest egg, my network, family and friends in Vancouver and moved up to Northern Alberta. One short month later, I was pregnant with my first child at the ripe age of 39 and nine months later, here he was. All within 365 days. My head was spinning, I was so out of my comfort zone, now in a very unfamiliar territory, so desperately trying to cling onto my previous life. I missed the business of just me because I knew how to run it.
Now, it’s all about the business of being a mom (and our household) and only now, am I finally starting to truly embrace this new life of mine. I’m only one year in and two years since moving, but I’m learning how to do this ‘new me’ one day at a time.
Motherhood is no joke. The hours are long, endless and exhausting. You make ZERO dolla bills, it’s a selfless job, and I’ve come to realize that it’s a different kind of mental exhaustion. I went from dealing with stubborn, ego-centric, opinionated CEO’s, working with multi-millions dollar budgets and managing people to dealing with a clingy, non-verbal, demanding cutie pie who shits his pants at least 3 times a day. If this were someone I was dating back in my single days, this is when we would break up.
But, what I’ve come to realize is that the business of being a mom is the most fulfilling, selfless, head-over-heels in love thing I’ve ever experienced. There is this constant dependency on you knowing that you are shaping this tiny human into the person they will eventually be. This unconditional love people talked about so freely and confidently. You never really do understand it until you’re actually living it.
Being present for my child and enjoying every second of his growth and development is important to me because it will fly by so quick. The stages are brief and fast, but rewarding and extraordinary and should never be taken for granted. What I’ve learned is that the real art is in finding the balance between being a mom and being a career woman, outside of the home. Not something every woman achieves, but I’m on the right path and if I approach it like I do business, then I know I will get there soon.