Advice Food

The Madness Called Mealtime

April 12, 2017

Until you live with a tiny human (or a couple of them), you have no idea how harrowing mealtime can actually be.  I envisioned my sweet family gathered around the table, laughing, talking about our day, all eating the same delicious home cooked meal and then everyone pitches in to clean up.  Well, WTF?!  Obviously, I was completely delusional before I had children.  It looks a little more like this: two little tyrants screaming that they are hungry and want a snack (always just before a meal, always), slaving over a hot stove just to have them absolutely hate what you’ve made, and OH, the hunger protests that seem to last for DAYS… for real!!  I hear you sweet momma, I have been there (and I am still there some days).  I will tell you, it does improve.  With consistency and a hell of a lot of patience, you will come out of the feeding frenzy days relatively unscathed.  

Here are some tips and tricks to make the mealtime madness a little more bearable:

  • The #1 golden rule to remember – Kids will eat when they are hungry.  The will not starve themselves.  Offer healthy options at each meal (especially during those picky and defiant toddler/preschool years) and let your frustrations go!  Setting strict parameters around mealtime for your mini-me is only going to cause more chaos and tears (from both of you).  Save yourself the stress and let them eat at their own pace.
  • Offer fresh fruits and veggies at each meal.  Kids love finger foods and may be more enticed to eat these fresh options over cooked veggies.  Think cucumbers, tomatoes, avocado, berries, grapes…the possibilities are endless!
  • It takes at least 10 times for your taste buds to adapt to a new taste.  Instill the “have to try one bite” rule at each meal.  Even if they have already tried it at a previous meal.  They should try it again.  Eventually they may acquire a taste for it.
  • Don’t become a short order cook!  Make one main meal for the entire family, but go ahead and include a side dish you know your child will like.  Ours is noodles…. at.every.meal!!  But, we all eat the same meat, vegetable, etc.
  • Save their plate.  If they don’t eat at dinner (or breakfast…or lunch), that’s the food they will get when they decide they are hungry.
  • If they hated dinner and still protest the plate you saved, offer a healthy snack (peanut butter toast, fruit, yogurt, granola bar, etc.), but absolutely no treats or empty calorie snacks.  If you pass on dinner, you pass on sweets.
  • Smoothies are your BEST friend!  You can hide amazing, healthy shit in a smoothie and your kiddo may be oblivious.  You name it, I’ve put it in a smoothie for my kid…spinach, kale, chia sees, coconut oil…play around with combinations to find their sweet spot, and then use daily smoothies to pack in the nutrients they may be lacking.
  • A daily children’s multivitamin will help bridge the gap.  Just be sure to follow proper age/dosing instructions and keep out of reach!  Gummy and chewable vitamins resemble candy to most kids, so be sure to put them in a spot where they can’t get to them on their own.
  • Food jags are completely normal and common.  Ride through it.  Offer other sensible choices to accompany whatever the current food obsession may be.  Eventually they will be willing to expand their palate.
  • Let them pitch in!  Let them set the table with you, help with meal prep and practice cleaning up their plate.  Not only will you be setting the stage for good habits as they grow, but they may be more enticed to eat food that they “helped” prepare.

If all else fails…try, try again!  But first, pour yourself a glass of wine!  You have earned it.  Mealtime can be such a pain in the ass with littles.  Remember, this too shall pass.  Hang in there, Motherluckers! xo

You Might Also Like

1 Comment

  • Reply Stefanie Arend April 13, 2017 at 7:04 am

    I am a nutritionist and I can agree with most of these points. But I can also recommend to trust in the inner wisdom of your child. If you keep on offering healthy foods to them, and of course you have to be a roll-model by eating them yourself, they will ask for the exactly right foods if they should get a lack of certain nutrients. It is called regulation mechanism and we are all born with it. Studies have been done which show this is working perfectly. That was what helped me most when I was getting too obsessed with my kids not eating enough healthy foods. They know exactly what they need. The one thing which destroys this mechanism is when they do not get in touch with natural foods but are being offered too many artificial, sugary and flavored foods because it confuses the body. 🙂

  • Leave a Reply